“Every day may not be good, but there’s something good in every day.” ~Unknown
Maybe you didn’t get enough sleep last night. Or you feel overworked and overwhelmed. Or perhaps something happened, and you keep dwelling on it.
Going over and over in your head how you froze up in a meeting, or spoke too aggressively to someone you love.
Whatever the case may be, you feel something you don’t want to, and you’re not sure how to change it. You just know you need to do something
before acting on that feeling.
The reality is you don’t have to act on everything you feel. Still, emotional responses happen so quickly that it becomes challenging to put space between feeling and doing.
It may seem like the answer is to stop responding to life emotionally, but that’s just not realistic.
“near impossible to bypass an emotional response because of the way our brains are set up”.
Ignore the negative feeling deal with as a person that you don’t want to communicate with and ignore him as it doesn’t exist, It’s all about decisions
- Go to the base, think and try to figure out the reason, the situation that made get into that feeling.
- Be honest enough don’t fake your emotions, Don’t be afraid to make someone down, You have the total right when you are upset to show it. And when some one asks “Are you ok?”
Don’t answer the usual answer “I’m fine”, Try to say “No am not ok I had ……. happened and I won’t feel good unless ….”
- Admit the rest of the sentence each and everyone have what makes him can’t resist smiling.,
And don’t get lazy to do it just think and realize that at the end it worth it
-Approach YES Approach to do something that you love that will get you out of the mood .. You are the only one who is responsible for that, Maybe you will feel that you need to just stay there but actually you don’t
“When you realize you’re the only thing standing between you and a smile, you get motivated to take action. That’s the thing about feelings: you can’t sit around waiting for them to change. You have to do something to change them.”
-Change the thought that is knocking on your head to bother you. Instead of insisting to know “why did that happened?”,” how did it go like that?”, or saying “It was out of my hands”, Be honest with your self, Let go and think about the things that you can actually control.
- Look at the story from a different prospective, Don’t put your self in a victim choose always understand that there is not a problem unless the two parties are mistaken but with different percentage.
- Understanding that Even if something happened to get in a bad mood, you’re responsible for keeping it cause you keep looking at it for” If you want to believe your best friend meant to hurt you. Or the world is against you. Or your boss didn’t promote you because she’s out to get you.” … Come on, somewhere inside you knows that your friend didn’t mean to hurt, that every one get those days “life is screwing me” and it pass through.
- spoil you self a little watch something funny or inspiring .. Do an activity that you love, It will break the bad mood
- use the silly voice technique “swapping the voice in your head with a cartoon voice will help take back power from the troubling thought” , Sound a bit cartoony and ridiculous, you will laugh about it, And this is the point.
- What if you did allllllllll that but it didn’t work, It’s a more work for your will now .. which means you are in a battle between the part of you who want to let go and the other part who don’t want to,
Talk to you self saying: “I still feel bad. I accept it. I know I won’t always feel bad, and it will change as soon as I’m ready.”
accepting the fact that you feel bad and realizing it wont stay forever eases the anger and motivate your self to let go